decision-making for adults

21 01 2009

why is it difficult for adults to make decisions? why not throw cautious to the wind and just decide on the spot? why do adults spend a long time weighing pros and cons and end up with a decision they will regret?

i wish making decisions is easy. i want to make decisions without drying up my brain cells. whenever adults make decisions, they spend a lot of time in contemplation. they consider the benefits, people who might get involved, the process and the means to implement such decision. the considerations that they have to put up with may lead to a good or bad decision. if the result didn’t come out as planned, they spend a long time regretting it. only one thing for sure, the outcome is always uncertain. for kids or people who make “hasty” decisions, outcomes – whether good or bad, is alright. they might make the wrong decision but they they don’t have much to regret either. so how should adults make decisions? is spending an awful amount of time helpful to reach a good judgment? or is deciding with less thought  more helpful to one’s sanity?

i let 3 job opportunities passed because i was stuck weighing the pros and cons. and i totally regret it. if only i grabbed the opportunity, my life would be different now, or so i thought. i don’t know for sure what kind of life i’ll be having. but i’m certain that i won’t be kicking myself now because of regrets.

once again, i’m in the midst of making a major life decision – my career. i don’t know if  i’m to continue the profession i am in now or change gears. i don’t know what will be more fruitful. all i know is that my life at the present is not the life i want. i want change and i’m determine to change, but what kind of decision should i be making? there’s this cliche that “as you get older, you get wiser”, but do we really get wiser as we age? if we keep on making the same mistakes, can we call ourselves “adults”? if we still do things we regret later on, can we call ourselves “adults”? if we make decisions the “mature way” in terms of weighing the pros and cons, can we call ourselves “adults”?

i’m already 26 yet i don’t know if can actually say i’m a certified adult… or am i just acting “mature”? one thing is certain though, i still find myself looming webs of confusion. however, whenever i decide on a whim, it seems immature. should adults be restricted to the usual standard of contemplation? i guess, decisions can be made by anyone. the results may vary. good decisions are not exclusive to adults. decision-making must be done with contemplation but on a limited time. life is short. let’s make good decisions with our brain cells at peace.



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